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ABSTRACT
The ability of a newborn to quickly adapt to the demands of parents leads to the fact that the child's needs for love,
respect, responsiveness, understanding, participation, and sympathy are often repressed into the unconscious. The
same can be said about emotional reactions to situations fraught with grave consequences, in which the child is
deprived of something vital. As a result, a person, both in childhood and adulthood, is deprived of many emotional
experiences such as jealousy, anger, envy, feelings of loneliness and helplessness, and fear.
KEYWORDS
Mental health, children, parents, psychopathy, disorders, psychoanalysis, neurobiology, antisocial disorders.
INTRODUCTION
The main indisputable characteristic of personality is
self-awareness, separation from the surrounding
world. In this sense, we say that a baby is certainly a
unique individual, but still not a personality. But already
at 2.5-3 years old, a child begins to be aware of himself,
to distinguish his feelings, to evaluate his behavior. And
this property rapidly develops in preschool and school
age. The child forms ideas about the world and himself.
This happens in mandatory interaction with other
people, primarily with parents. Therefore, the child's
future largely depends on how seriously, respectfully,
and truly parents treat the personality of their child.
Research Article
INFLUENCE OF PSYCHOPATHIC QUALITIES OF PARENTS ON MENTAL
DISORDERS IN CHILDREN
Submission Date:
October 20, 2024,
Accepted Date:
October 25, 2024,
Published Date:
October 30, 2024
Crossref doi:
https://doi.org/10.37547/ajsshr/Volume04Issue10-30
Askarova Nargiza Abdivaliyevna
Doctor of Philosophy in Psychology, Lecturer at the Department of Pedagogy and Psychology of the Tashkent
Medical Academy, Uzbekistan
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Raising a child is a part of life, and without mistakes it
is inevitable. Moreover, as you know, none of us are
taught to be parents. However, there are such parental
mistakes that determine the child's life and
development for many years. Mistakes that children,
having grown up, continue to remember with pain and
resentment towards their parents. Parents are
constantly near their child, and it is no wonder that
sometimes they do not have time to notice how he has
changed. Maybe he is already able to do independently
what others continue to do for him. Maybe he is
already able to reason and make decisions, and you can
rely on him in many ways. However, it can also be the
other way around. We get ahead of events and it
seems to us that the child is already old enough, we
demand too much from him, we impose responsibility
that he is not yet able to bear. The process of growing
up, fortunately or unfortunately, happens on its own,
beyond our control.
But another law of developmental psychology states:
only a fully lived stage of life gives the opportunity to
be successful in the next one. In other words, only if a
child lives a full, fulfilling, real childhood, only then will
he be able to become a real, successful and... happy
adult. In the post-war years, during large-scale
observations of children in boarding schools, one
pattern was revealed. Children in boarding schools
received absolutely everything necessary for life (food,
treatment, clothing, etc.), but had absolutely no
emotional communication with adults. As a result,
many of them developed serious health problems,
intellectual and social development disorders.
Emotions are an important part of any human
relationship, be it business or personal. And, of course,
there is always an emotional component in the
relationship between a parent and a child to one
degree or another.
Joy, anger, pain, tenderness, resentment - any
emotions "color" communication, making it something
more than just an exchange of information. In
emotional communication, we learn to understand
ourselves and other people, we learn to empathize and
understand the feelings of our interlocutors. Finally,
we perceive and remember emotionally colored
information better. For a child, emotional contact with
parents and close adults is of particular importance.
There is no particular point in proving this statement; it
can be considered an axiom. Although the experiment
described in the example left no doubt at all.
Nevertheless, someti
mes parents “cross out”
emotions from their relationships with their child,
doing this more or less consciously and for a variety of
reasons.
Often, the stereotype that parents brought
from their mom and dad comes into play, when it is
believed that expressing warm feelings for each other
is something not quite decent, and simply “not
accepted”. This is not necessarily a variant of some
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kind of family trouble. After all, it may be similarly not
accepted to express negative feelings for each other.
It is simply a family model where restraint becomes one
of the main virtues. Politeness and goodwill may reign
in it, but communication will be quite formal. Such
coldness is due to the personal characteristics of the
parents themselves. First of all, the type of
temperament. A phlegmatic mom or dad is withdrawn,
reserved in themselves and do not experience violent
emotions. Accordingly, they do not need special
manifestations of love and may not give this to their
children (“I do not like these calf
-like tenderne
ss!”).
Having grown up a little, the children of such
unemotional parents usually understand that this is not
a lack of love. Grown-up children who resented their
mother/father for the lack of warmth in childhood
should realize that this could be connected with
serious problems in themselves. Various psychological
traumas can lead to a person avoiding any contact with
other people, especially physical contact. It is worth
mentioning affection separately. There is an opinion
that a child really needs physical contact with his
mother. Someone even calculated how many hugs and
kisses a child needs per day. Perhaps, this rule is
absolutely true only for children under one year of age.
Babies who do not yet separate themselves from their
mothers really do need physical contact. Older children
may express this need very individually: some still need
a lot of touching, some need to hear warm words, and
some need to see their mother or father smile more
often. Therefore, first of all, we are talking about
emotional contact.
Everything else is just a way to maintain it. Sometimes
parents explain their lack of communication with their
child by their own busyness. This can be heard
especially often from fathers. More often than not,
there are other, internal reasons behind this. The same
lack of confidence in oneself as a parent, isolation, and
others, which were discussed above. It is very
important to remember that a child needs emotional
communication with parents (and especially with
mother) as a way to feel safe, as a way to form a stable
positive self-
attitude (“if they show me love, then I am
worthy of it, I am good”). In addition, this is necessary
for the development of personality: the interest of a
close adult in the child's emotions helps to realize and
feel their value. This is also the path to developing
empathy, that is, the ability to sympathize with
another, to share feelings and thoughts with another
person.
If a child does not receive enough expressions of love,
he or she may try to earn it with all their might, and if
they fail, on the contrary, they may provoke irritation
or fear for their life. In order not to see indifference
towards themselves, the child will constantly strive to
confirm their importance in the lives of their parents.
What happens to a child who receives the message
“Don’t feel this” from a parent? Yes, they will suppress
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“wrong” emotions, which in the future will lead to the
inability to “hear themselves” and adequately assess
the states of other people. But what’s more, this is the
beginning of the development of an inferiority
complex: “Parents are not angry, it’s not good to be
angry, but if I’m angry, it means I’m somehow bad,
wrong, unworthy…”. These prohibitions on certain
feelings are not always heard out loud. Hidden
messages about the inadmissibility of love for one of
the family members are very common in conflict
families and in families after the parents’ divorce.
Parents' words generally have much more significance
in a child's fate than parents would like. Therefore,
they should be handled very carefully. It is very
important for a child to distinguish between the
attitude towards him and his behavior. The child's
actions, deeds, words may not please, make him angry.
But the child himself must be loved, this is important.
So, not "I don't love you when you do this", but "I don't
like it when you do this". In the eyes of an adult, the
difference in wording is almost imperceptible, in the
eyes of a child it is enormous. Unconditional love, love
without any conditions, gives a child a vital sense of
security. This is the rear that a child feels behind his
back throughout his life. Parental love that a child
needs like air. And also about sincerity in relationships
with a child, no matter how old he is, about openness,
readiness to accept and understand another person
with all his emotions, problems, doubts. It is not easy
to do this under the weight of your own problems,
affairs, habits and feelings.
But you can strive for this. Thus, it is not easy for a child
to express his own feelings. This creates an inseparable
connection with parents, in the presence of which it is
impossible to autonomize your inner world. After all,
the imaginary I of the child allows parents to gain the
sense of self-confidence that they so lack, and the
child, in turn, first consciously, and then unconsciously
makes himself completely dependent on his parents.
He cannot rely on his own feelings, he has never gained
the necessary experience, does not know his true
needs and is extremely alien to himself. In this
situation, he cannot internally separate from his
parents and in adulthood turns out to be dependent on
people who replace his parents. These people can be
partners, comrades and, above all, his own children.
Inherited memories, repressed into the unconscious,
force him to hide his true self from himself as carefully
as possible. As a result, the feeling of loneliness
experienced in childhood in the parental home and not
given a proper outlet leads to the isolation of a person
from himself. No matter how insignificant the reasons
may seem, no matter how inappropriate the feelings
may seem, the child has the right to be taken seriously
by those closest to him.
By devaluing emotions, we devalue the child's
personality itself. Parental interest in the child's
everyday life is very important: Not only in his school
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grades and bad behavior, but in all his little joys and
sorrows, so insignificant at first glance. The main thing
is the willingness to understand your child, even if he is
different from you, to help him in his ideas and hobbies
and support them, even if they do not seem the most
promising, and finally, to change your vision of the
child following how he changes himself. Doing this
consciously or not, but behind the wall of their own
expectations and ideas, parents often do not notice a
little person, special and unique from birth. But you just
need to open your eyes to this uniqueness, and see
how interesting it will be to communicate with your
own child. You will not just educate and teach - you will
open up a whole world of real, living interaction
between two people, with all its joys and sorrows. Your
child will have a chance to live his own life - a real one.
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